If that which doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger,

If this were true, we would all be as strong as superman, in fact we could probably beat him in the strong arm stakes.

It may well make us think, or make us wonder?

Everyone has a breaking point and with so much, people are damaged or hurt to a point that they may be stronger to some extent but at what cost in other ways. How often do you hear of someone who has suffered a horrific accident go on to accomplish a feat they would never have done in the normal life.

Stress and anger can make us stronger, but turning it on it's head and using it against itself.

What makes us stronger, and in what context?

When a relationship breaks up, it can be emotionally draining, yet a few months on, we put that behind us, find someone else to have fun with and move on.

But what about an event that causes us to behave in such a way, all we want to do is run away, hide, black out the world. Some people call this depression, I like to call it a black box, one that I can crawl into and forget the world out there.   But the depression become anger.

Anger Anxiety turns negative pessimism into focus optimism 

Bring some good from the bad side

There is some evidence to suggest that anger may be a feeling that is associated with a feeling of helplessness and loss of control. People may respond to these feelings in one of two ways. When we lose control we might show it an outward way by being angry, if we still don’t feel as if we are getting satisfaction or control that anger can turn to rage. The other way we emotionally respond to lack of control or feeling a loss of empowerment is we feel depressed. We think "What’s the matter with me I should have said something to change things.

Anger takes a great deal of energy from us and it distances us from other people. If we overdo it, we can lose friends, spouses, our children and even our jobs. When we are angry we do not have our peace of mind.

Yet anger can work for us, but channelling the fuelled anger into something we feel passionate about we can achieve goals that may well have been pushed aside due to procrastinating or lack of motivation.

When we are angry we may clean the car, sort out the wardrobe, write that book we have been going to do.  We get angry when people say we can’t do something, so we turn the tables, and go and do it anyway. This is a form of anger management.  

Anger manifests itself in many ways; we may mistake anger for frustration, even wisdom, but anger in its main form can be dangerous and harmful.  So where do you draw the line and move on. Forgive and forget, turn the anger to the good.

If it helps our realign of our own lives without harming others, with violence, physical or verbal, can we not take this anger out on ourselves. I sometimes shout at my reflection in the mirror (yes really) tell myself, ‘I have been here before, and come through it’ it does work, even if it simply makes me laugh and forget that anger. Try it, or dance, sing your favourite song, do something silly, laughter is a great medicine.