Who we are percieved to be!

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not?

 

My son said this today; I thought it was very philosophical and highbrow of him and very much unexpected. But it turns out he learnt it from a computer game, and I then discovered it was by Andre Gide a French critic, essayist, & novelist (1869 – 1951) so maybe not. Oh but, the illusion was good for a while, but it did set me thinking.

We are always being force fed the idea of faking it till you make it in business, and life coaching. You only have to watch programmes like the apprentice to hear the cliques that the candidates trawl out in the board room. How many of them really know what they are talking about, or did they learn it all of parrot fashion to create an image.  So are we in danger of creating something we are not, therefore causing people to dislike us, if they discovered we were simply replicating an idea of others. But then this begs the question what happened to individuality.

This deception to others makes us believe we are real, till the outcome is that we create that person and believe we are that creation.  So says The Law of Attraction. Actually these are my words not theirs.

We change our homes and fashion ideas to copy those of celebrities and magazines. We lose ourselves, in us.

We pretend we have successful businesses because we hate to admit it is failing, we pretend our home and ourselves are furnished from high class stores, but they are from bargain basements. Who are we trying to impress, us or them?

Would we not be accepted in society if it wasn’t?

The simply answer to that is No we wouldn’t.

If we are unsuccessful in business we are deemed a failure.

Unemployed and on benefits, we are called lazy and scroungers.

It we don’t have the latest gadgets, or the newest fashions, people look down their noses at us, as if we are beneath them.

If we don't conform to society we are classed as odd, eccentric, weird, displaced even laughed at.

In recent months, I have had people say to me, we don’t want people on benefits living in our block of flats. They trash and destroy the flats, but this is only because of one person. Strangely enough that person isn’t on any benefits he is infact a business man. But the residents assume he is, because he drinks and leaves the bottles scattered about and drives an old car. But on the other hand, another person, who is house-proud, very well dressed, nice car. They think is a successful business woman, but infact she is unemployed and on benefits.  (it should be noted that this person had all this before her business failed)    This is how society perceived us

He doesn’t care what people think – therefore he is hated for what he is

She does care, puts on a front – so therefore she is loved for something she isn’t.

The lady in here will sit in a coffee shop, computer on the table, to all intense and purpose the archetypical business woman.  Looks impressive and people talk to her like that person. She doesn’t look like the average person sitting having a coffee break.  Why do we tar people with same brush, we are all unique and individual, no two people the same.

We should see people as such.