Inside out!

Those who look outside ourselves for the direction that will transform our lives, are likely to be similarly dissatisfied. The challenge for all of us is to mobilise our own considerable capacity for change, to refine our judgments about what we want and how to get it, and not to imagine that the instructions or conclusions of someone else will rescue us.

In general we can only bring ourselves to the task of change when remaining as we are has become sufficiently painful that we cannot stand it any longer. It begins to dawn on us that life is not a rehearsal. Our time, while uncertain, is finite. People at every age are dying every day, most with a lot of unfinished business.

We all carry around inside ourselves some idea of what we would like our lives to be. The images of success with which we are bombarded are, in general, both superficial and unattainable. The values of steadfastness and determination do not receive the admiration they deserve.

In our daily lives, questions of personal worth are recurrent, if seldom articulated. We are constantly looking at the outside world and trying to emulate the people in it. We aspire to be rich, famous, loved, needed and yet when we aren’t we feel a failure. 

So isn’t it time we looked back inside ourselves and became the individual we were the day we were born. That unique person that learned how to walk, how to talk, in our own distinctive way, the one that dressed different to be noticed, before we followed the rest like sheep. 

Turn back our lives and believe in us, not them, we are a single entity. No one can replace the authentic self of someone else.  Once we leave ourselves, we are bound to suffer, until we return to our own authenticity. 

Are we drowning in words or simply trying to justify our unhappiness? Are we drowning in so many words which turn out to be lies, false words we tell ourselves or others. By lying to yourself doesn’t change the way you are. Lying to yourself is lying to yourself, and if I’m fooling myself, I’m compounding the problem.

Meaning!

Changing our beliefs about what things mean is how we avoid seeing that meanings aren’t true. Most of us are terrified of questioning the validity of those meanings, because that goings against our internal programming, which we think is right and keeps us safe. But not examining the hidden meanings prevents us addressing the issues in our lives that cause us to suffer. 

Right…. bet you are confused now. 

By not questioning our lives and the meanings behind what is happening we are hiding our sense of worth from view.  We pretend that things are ok, when in fact they are not. Many times we don’t ask questions because we don’t want to upset the apple cart. We justify the unhappiness, and the happiness, and simply go alone with it, becoming the victim of ourselves. 

We are the only ones that can change our life, books can help, this one included, I hope. But it comes down to the one solid answer, only you can do it. 

So go ahead, I am right behind you.